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DaddyTeller: Unplug Dad. Be a better father.

admin — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 03:05:46 +0000

Great article and a great find over this blog. In an article at Greenough.com, they discuss the need to “unplug” sometimes. I wrote this in their comments section:

It’s been time for parents (especially dads) to unplug for some time. It’s amazing what a difference 15 minutes a day of focused attention can make in the lives of our children.

Unplugging is not only from electronics. We’ve become dependent on things to make us better parents. Toys, storybooks, parenting videos, baby training stuff and more have been adopted by parents, replacing the chance to develop our innate parenting skills.

For some time, I have been encouraging Dads especially to disconnect a bit, learn a new to tell from their hearts and mind and truly engage their children. If you want you kid to talk to you at 13, you need to start telling them stories at 3.

As well, we need to teach our children to disconnect. There is great value in our technology but more and more, as I work with teens, they can’t disconnect from their electronic pacifiers. For a while it was .mp3 players, now it’s telephones.

Three cheers for unplugging adults! Put down the phone, the blackberry and the story book. Look your kids in the eye, reach out and touch them and tell them your stories.

They’ll answer back.

Parenthood Video #8: Dad! Your Storytelling Is An Event!

admin — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 21:40:39 +0000

Hey Dads! Parenthood can get tiresome, we know. But, to your kids, the time you spend with them is priceless and exciting. While you are working on bedtime stories for kids, why not put the book down and tell stories to your kids. Storytelling is an interactive event for your children. You’ll bond with your kids and pass on important lessons all with the simple use of bedtime stories- or anytime you use storytelling with your child. Its’ fun and good for you and them. In this free video, Sean talks a bit about making storytelling an “event” for your child.

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Free Parenthood Video #7: Time Will Fly, Dad.

admin — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 23:16:18 +0000

Want to be a better Dad? Then pay attention now to your kids. The price of parenthood is paid in attention. Don’t focus on your needs but rather on your child’s needs. Bedtime Kids Stories are more than a sedative, they are a way for you to hold-on to the joy (yeah, joy) that having children can be all the while helping your kid grow up. And they grow up faster than you can imagine. Come take a few moments in this video with Sean Buvala to think about what fathering is all about.

Free Video #5: Get Close to Your Kids With Bedtime Stories

admin — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 00:38:03 +0000

Dads: Should you get close to your kids? Yes! The father role in bedtime kids’ stories is get close and snuggly. You can’t do that with a book in your hands! Here’s more information in this free “how to tell a story” video. See all our videos of storytelling techniques at http://www.daddyteller.com/vids .

Free Video #4: Use Scary Stories with Your Children?

admin — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 03:24:01 +0000

What is the father role in bedtime kids stories? Do we tell scary stories? Well, maybe not at bedtime. But at other times, a story about a scary event might be perfect. There is a difference between talking about a tough subject and trying to frighten kids. Sean talks about this in our very brief video below.

Free Video #2: Touch in Bedtime Stories

admin — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:58:30 +0000

Even more on how to tell a story. Storytelling techniques with your own children need to include touch. When you buy the DaddyTeller.com book, you will be able to acces many more in-depth videos as well.

Three Tips To Enjoy the “Father Role” in Bedtime Stories

admin — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 00:35:02 +0000

Are you part of the 45% of fathers who won’t do a very crucial parenting job? It’s a great “job” that is fun, increases their children’s school success and builds the important father/child relationship.

According to a May 2009 poll by the National PTA, nearly half of men surveyed report that they do not participate in the essential family ritual of bedtime stories. Hearing and telling bedtime stories helps children both bond with their parents and increase their school success. As well, surveys also indicate that children who have actively involved fathers do better in school and have less issues with drugs and alcohol as teens.

Sean Buvala, a professional national storyteller and author of the book “DaddyTeller: How to Be a Hero to Your Kids and Teach Them What’s Really Important by Telling One Simple Story at a Time,” shares these three tips to help dads be more involved in bedtime stories with their children:

1. Alternate between reading books and telling stories.
There is a great emphasis on picking up storybooks and reading stories to children. Reading to children is a good thing and should be part of every father’s daily (or at least weekly) plan. For an even bigger impact on your kids, put down the storybook and tell stories to your children. The DaddyTeller books contains eight stories and step-by-step directions to tell each story. Not only will you model communication skills for your children, but you will start developing an in-your-head collection of stories that you can share with them at a moment’s notice. As your confidence in storytelling and your story repertoire grows, you will be even more confident in participating in the important bedtime story ritual in your own home.

2. Make bedtime stories a two-way conversation.
In telling stories to your kids, they will start to learn the rhythm and flow of the stories you tell them. Learn to stop telling a story and ask, “What happens next?” Help your child to think about the future of characters in books or your oral stories. For example, in the “Lion and the Mouse” story by Aesop, ask your child to imagine and share with you how the Lion and Mouse might be friends in the future or to make up stories about where the mouse lives. You can download this story and instructions for free from www.daddyteller.com .

3. Don’t take yourself too seriously.
Although storytelling is a powerful tool to help you child succeed in school and life, bedtime stories should be fun. Take the pressure off yourself to be a faultless parent in every breath and action you take. In the DaddyTeller book, you will learn just how and when to use a funny story.

You can spend lots of time learning to tell the perfect story perfectly, but in the end, the relationship you are building and the time you spend together with your kids is more important than perfect storytelling techniques. Some fathers will worry more about getting it right than getting in front of their children. Look your child in the eye and tell them stories. If laughing and giggling occurs, that is a good thing, too. Sometimes the “father role” is just being the giggle-man with the funny bedtime stories.

Dads! Don’t be part of the nearly 50% of fathers that miss one of the most important parts of their child’s lives and development. Share stories with your kids to improve their future!

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Sean Buvala is the author of DaddyTeller™, which teaches dads how to tell bedtime stories for children. You can find his book at http://www.daddyteller.com

Telling Bedtime Stories: DaddyTeller Training Video

admin — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 04:03:42 +0000

When you buy the DaddyTeller book or Ebook, you get access to some free audio and video training. Here is a sample of one of these short videos. We talk about the father role in telling funny bedtime stories or any type of bedtime stories. Here’s the sample.

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Video: Three Dad Tips

admin — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 09:23:54 +0000

Here’s a short video for fathers to learn some quick family communication skills. When you are done, please visit the front page and pick up our DaddyTeller Ebook.

3 Quick Ways for Dad to Communicate Better with His Child

admin — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 23:02:52 +0000

The world needs fathers. Study after study confirms the important role of the father in a family. Let’s improve your father-children relationship. Here are three quick and easy ways for Dads to relate better to their children.

1. Put down the distractions.
If you want to communicate better with your young kids, then learn to pay attention. Listening to a child while you channel surf, web surf or refrigerator surf is not really listening. Put down the remote or the mouse or close the ‘fridge door. Pay attention to what your child is saying. By the way, this rule changes a bit when your kids, especially your sons, are older. A great way to get your teens to talk is do a shared activity together. You’ll notice that I used the word “shared” in that sentence, right?

2. Look your child in the eye.
All the media your child is exposed to shares one thing in common: all of it has your child’s eyes and ears glued upon it. When you talk to your child, do you have their eye-contact? One of the greatest gifts we give to our children is looking them in the eye. Let them see you seeing them. Put down the storybook and tell them a story. Involve them in the tale. Advertisers are not hesitant to look your kids in the eye. You should do no less.

3. Make your child’s needs the priority.
As more and more dads, thankfully, become much more active in parenting, I read more about fathers who do not like kiddie things. I have read several posts, for example, about how some stay-at-home dads don’t like kid’s music and wish to substitute rock artists for kids musicians.

Although some of these daddy-blogger posts are written tongue-in-cheek, there is an underlying issue: kid things are not designed for dads. They are designed for kids. Don’t be in a hurry to bypass the usefulness of all the kiddie toys and noise that is out there.

The “Wheels On The Bus” song is driving you crazy? Let it make you crazy and let your kids listen to it a hundred times a day if they want. Raising four kids in our house, I can assure you that this phase doesn’t last long. Very soon, you’ll be dealing with the wheels on the car which is under your teen’s control as it is driven from your home.

The repetition of songs and stories is important for your child’s development and even future skills for learning and school. Be focused on what your kids need, not what you want.

In reality, all three of these ideas are really expressing the same need: Dads, give your kids the gift of your attention. You don’t need to be father of the year. You need to be the best daddy you can to your kids.

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Sean Buvala, father of four and a professional storyteller, is the author of the book “DaddyTeller™: Be a Hero to Your Kids and Teach Them What’s Really Important by Telling Them One Simple Story at a Time.” Get your copy by visiting http://www.daddyteller.com.